How To Keep Your Control When Others Are Loosing Theirs
Life is not calm and steady all day, every day: there will be times when issues come along that will put you under pressure, make you question your beliefs and values and which will completely challenge you.
All guaranteed to make you lose your control but to do so shows weakness and makes those around you look at you in a different light – ultimately nobody has respect for someone who loses their control under pressure, especially so in a managerial or responsible role.
So, what can you do to keep control when the pressure is on?
The following pointers will help you:
- Be very clear about your own agenda: do not get swayed or diverted into a path that you would not naturally opt to take.
- Allow yourself time to think: pressure and stress create the temptation to react instinctively and potentially make a decision, or a reaction, that later you then regret. Keep it calm!
- Manage the information that is coming in: think about what is happening and put it into some solid context. On a broader approach make sure that you manage your Inbox so that pressure from unanswered email is not a contributory factor here!
- Plan ahead: nothing creates a loss of control like being unprepared for a situation that you could reasonably have foreseen taking place. This is a major cause of stress and anxiety yet it can be tamed relatively quickly and easily.
- Find out what makes other people tick, what their agendas are and what they consider to be important: the more you know about those around you the easier it is to keep control as you now have the ability to appreciate what messages and pressures are coming your way.
- Be flexible in what you are trying to achieve: your chances of success are very limited if your approach is too rigid and you only have one path towards your objective. Think about how you might use compromise to get the outcome that you want.
- Take time and think through issues before you react: a hasty response that is ill-conceived and unplanned will only get a reaction which then serves to increase the risk that you will lose control going forward.
- Prepare for the best but expect the worst: thinking that things will always work out perfectly in your favour is naïve and will only serve to make you angry and experience loss of control when a crisis lands. Thinking carefully about the worst outcomes means that you have recognised the possibility and should know how to manage this. Celebrate the best when it happens.
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