The Secrets Of Resilience
Resilience is something we tend to admire in others – regardless of their career, family or social situations – resilient people are to be admired. While we all vary dramatically in the coping techniques we use, all of us can work to develop and strengthen our skills of Resilience by following some simple steps.
Strong, resilient people are aware of situations: they work to quickly assess their own emotional state of mind and assess their likely reactions to what they are facing at any point in time coupled with the behaviour and non-verbal signals of others. Those with resilience are aware and can maintain control of a situation and think of new ways to tackle problems.
Resilience is all about developing and using coping skills that work in a variety of situations:
- Having a sense of control
Control is about being responsible for what goes on in your life, rather than blaming others and bad luck for the situation that you find yourself in. resilience here is about believing that your actions can take control of situations and that you are reasonably able to influence outcomes.
- Having strong problem-solving skills
Problems need a solution and should not be left to fester, when the original problem becomes bigger than when it began. Skills in problem solving are therefore essential for resilient people. When a crisis emerges, resilient people are able to spot the solution that will lead to a quality outcome. People who do not have such skills often experience tunnel vision, failing to notice important details or take advantages of opportunities. Resilient individuals, on the other hand, are able to calmly and rationally look and the problem and envision a successful solution.
- Having a strong social circle
Resilient people have people around them who can offer support and provide a fresh insight into challenges and troubling issues. Talking and sharing problems is an excellent way in which to gain different perspectives and to find new solutions.
- Having a survivor outlook, not a victim outlook
When dealing with any potential crisis, it is essential to view yourself as a survivor. Avoid thinking like a victim of circumstance and instead look for ways to resolve the problem. While the situation may be unavoidable, you can still stay focused on a positive outcome.
Being resilient does not come overnight – it requires the development of the above skills over time so that your outlook is not phased or disrupted when issues come to your door.
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