How do we effectively and efficiently increase our sphere of Influence?
Charisma increases your sphere of influence. People listen when you talk. Colleagues consider and support your ideas. Talented and gifted people want to join your team and social circle. You become popular and respected. You “get on”
Charisma is a collection of traits and behaviours that make you appeal to other people. Such people are engaging, likeable, trustworthy and get things done because those around them are willing to help out and join in with projects. Critically charismatic people in the workplace listen to others and really consider what is being said. It is perfectly possible to learn these traits and develop them for yourself.
It will take time to fully develop these ideas and you will have to constantly refine and redraw them out as, with everything, practice makes perfect!
Body Language and Presence
Correct body language can transmit strength, warmth, and likability. By using a straight posture, standing up straight, with your shoulders back and your head up your presence is automatically enhanced. Nobody likes anyone who slouches! Make sure that you devote your full attention to the person that you are talking to – it might be tempting to have a “surface” conversation but people quickly see through this and you will be known as being shallow and not caring! Be an active listener – always!
Maintain a Positive Outlook
This is not always easy, especially when things are not going well at work or in your social circle. Charismatic people are always positive and convey a message of being in control and are unruffled by external forces and threats.
Helping Others Feel Good
Charismatic people make others feel good, or better, about their circumstances and situation. Charismatic people do not focus upon their successes and instead focus upon putting their energy and effort into trying to lift others up. By helping the people around them, they create an environment of positive energy that others are naturally drawn to.
Emotional Intelligence and Empathy
There is a strong correlation between high emotional intelligence and charisma. Leaders with high emotional intelligence are aware of their own emotions, as well as of the emotions of those around them. This awareness allows them to stay cool under pressure and give people what they need emotionally.
Empathy is an important part of this. When you’re able to understand other people’s perspectives, wants, and needs, you open the door for greater understanding and connection. Develop empathy and emotional intelligence by keeping your emotions under control, especially when you’re tired or stressed. Also, pay attention to others – by picking up on their body language and what they say, you’ll be able to identify what they want and need, and then take the appropriate action.
Self-Confidence and Assertiveness
Charismatic people have confidence, and they know how to be assertive.
Play to your strengths by setting and achieving small goals, and by developing the knowledge and skills that you need to do your job effectively. Make sure that you are comfortable with public speaking – the more practice you have with this the easier it will become. Charismatic people can talk confidently to an audience. Assertiveness is slightly different. Good, positive Assertion is all about communicating your wants and needs, while still respecting the wants and needs of other people. A show of personal power has to be tempered by a genuine show of kindness, respect, and dignity.
Make sure that you follow all of the above points, practice them and fine-tune your approach.